Bad Girl Attitudes, Do They Exist Amongst WAHMs?

Mar 6, 2010 WAHM Life, WAHM Rants

I would have to say yes, I have experienced it first hand, the first time back in 2003.  Is it to the extent now to what I remember it then? Probably, but when I see it going on now I generally scoff at the ignorance and click away. (I want to clarify I said generally because I am human, every once in awhile I may find myself in ‘drama’)

Let me go ahead and share my first time experience with you: See back in 2003 I was a moderator in an exclusive group (so they wanted to think anyway). There were two main woman in this group and I was brought on like the third, the right hand. I was in the loop about most everything. I knew there plans, was asked for my opinion, I was the soul person in charge of any graphics made for the group, I knew what pissed them off, what made them happy, I knew almost everything. They were a couple of toughies, I knew this, but in the beginning they just came across as they just were not going to take any crap (nothing wrong with that)…not these “bad girl” I will totally rip you to shreds cause you didn’t agree with me types (which is what they were about).

I started noticing the “Bad Girl Attitude” emerging when people where creating groups similar to theirs. The ugliness was surfacing, they would all but threaten others about doing the same. The breaking point came when an upstanding WAHM member stepped forward and said something about a person they were ridiculing publicly, this upstanding WAHM they attacked (and the person I decided to back) was (still is) one amazing woman who they should not have lashed out publicly at. I, of course, spoke out publicly as well. The fact I spoke up for my friend and did not support their stand caused me a night long attack, and continued attacks. There was demands to kick me out of places they also moderated. It was a mess.

When I tried to join other similar groups I was ignored, banned ALL because my name was tied to their group as one of the top dogs. I could not believe how mean they were behind the scenes to others, the things I did not know. I had to prove myself, I had to prove I was nothing like them before I could even move on in those kind of groups.

Now, with my directness I often wonder if people think I have the “bad girl attitude”? I certainly don’t think I do, but have been known to ruffle feathers with my straight forward approach, so I think it is wise to really break this down on a level people can grasp.

Now this is souly my opinion but it’s a formed opinion based on experience so I shall share it.

Top 3, might have a “bad girl attitude” if:

1. Thinking one is better than everyone else (confidence is good, even a little pompous is OK BUT arrogance is just annoying)
2. Can not handle constructive criticism (doesn’t mean that all criticism is good either, also doesn’t mean everyone should blow smoke)
3. Need others to fight their battles  (doesn’t mean someone can’t have someones else back, it just means others don’t have to take things into there own hands and be ignorant to about it)

How to avoid it? Click away. If you must say something, do it as straight forward as you can without sounding like a !@#$%.